Never mind, if somebody tells You, that he knows how You should live. Only You know with whom speek, how to live, where to kiss and when to share bed. No one knows these things better than You, because it's Your life in which You should do only what You want and what You can do. Maybe I misunderstand something, but for goal achievement You need to bend every effort to implementation Your dreams. So, don't mention anybody who tries to teach You how to live and with whom connect Your life, just live with feelings that You enjoy Your course of life and create You waу in life personally